The Surrendered Muslimah: Marriage & Etiquettes Workshop
Delivered by Sister Sara Malik, Surrendered Wife Trainer (UK)*
Date: Saturday 5th December 2009
Time: 10am – 5pm
Venue: Froud Centre, Romford Road, Manor Park, London, E12 5JF
The Prophet (saw) said:
Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges. The ruler who has authority over people is a guardian and is responsible for them, a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for them; A woman is a guardian of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for them; A slave is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it; So all of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges. (Bukhari 730)
During the one-day workshop, women learn all about the concept of ‘surrender’ and unravel the myths around it. Throughout the course of the day, women learn new ways that directly contribute to happiness and intimacy in a marriage; from learning way they could receive better, to looking after themselves more effectively. They explore ways they can express themselves more effectively and how to successfully get their needs met.
The workshop sheds light on how men feel around the topics of control and respect, aswell as helping them realise the significance of showing gratitude in a marriage. Although this workshop does not replace the in-depth investigation that the on-line Seminar provides, it is a perfect introduction into the principles of surrendering, and the ways to go about it.
*Sara Malik is a certified women’s relationship trainer, who leads women through on-line seminars, one-day workshops, one-on-one telephone support and a web-based support group. She helps and guides women transform their marriages with the principles of the bestselling book The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle. Sara successfully applies the principles of surrendering in her flourishing and intimate marriage of 12 years, and resides in West London with her husband, three boys, and her parents in-law. Her aim is to teach women that they can have it all: inner peace, self-accomplishment, a thriving marriage, happy children, and a successful extended family.
And Allah alone gives success. For more information please visit the website at www.surrenderedwife.com
All women welcome and entrance by bookings only.
To BOOK or for more information please contact:
Tel: 07917 034 530
E-mail: surrenderedwife@islamiccircles.org
Website: www.cherishedbookings.blogspot.com
Related Links
- Inspirity Surrenders – Online Marriage Magazine
- Cherished and Successful – Create an intimate marriage and be cherished for it
- The Surrendered Wife – Laura Doyle
- Book: The Surrendered Wife – A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with Your Man
- Book: Fascinating Womanhood
- Book: Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus
- Book: The 5 Love Languages – How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate
As-salaamu alaikum. Alhamdulillah, I attended my first tajweed class yesterday evening at Masjid Al-Ansar. The first lesson was an introduction to the tajweed and manners of reciting the Qur’an. There were about 11 of us in the beginners class and we were all tested by the sheikh and practiced reciting Surah al-Fatihah. Next week we’ll be going over the last six surahs of the Qur’an, inshaAllah.
See link to Masjid Al-Ansar for more information.
Resources: Quran Explorer
As-salaamu alaikum. Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
It’s that time of year again, when my colleagues in the office start to organise this year’s Xmas parties, lunches and drinks. Without sounding anti-social, how do we avoid attending them?
Firstly, in the 10 years with my current employer (alhamdulillah), I know that these events are non-mandatory. All you need to do is something very simple: talk to your manager and / or to the colleague who is organising the social event and if you wish, any other colleague that may be interested. Tell them why: e.g. the event will be focused around alcohol and traditional Xmas lunches (non-halal menu), and the celebration itself is against Muslim belief. Be polite and to the point.
Alhamdulillah, my colleagues are really nice and they normally go out their way to make things more accomodating for me – but I politely declined and advised them that there’s no need to water down their event for 1 person (and thus create animosity from some colleagues) and I asked them to continue with their event and excused myself. I also told them that I would love to attend future team socials and they noted down my requirements (halal menu and no alcohol).
Sometimes what seems to be “harmless fun” can be a serious issue when it comes to the deen. For example, in the office they’re collecting some money for a gift to show our appreciation to our excellent team manager. I then found out that they want to buy him a bottle of whiskey – now I really like my boss and he is a genuinely nice guy, but I had to tell them that I’m not being stingy, but I will not be able to contribute to the whiskey. Instead I offered to buy him a card or chocolates.
Eid ul Adha
Now with Eid just over 2 weeks away, what do we do to prepare for the big Eid – compared to the fun and excitement surrounding festivals from other faiths? I don’t think we make half as much effort, so we need to change this. Especially for our kids’ sake. We need our children to really look forward to and get excited about Eid. There’s so much we can do:
- take the day off!
- put up some decoration and lights (especially in these dark and winter months), put up an ‘Eid Mubarak’ banner, get kids involved in colouring and making some decorations
- buy gifts [wrap them up] for each other (“Give gifts to each other, as this will make you love one another.” [Sahih Muslim])
- dress up with new or your best clothes
- organise fun games (pass the parcel, musical chairs [with nasheeds], Eid Mullah (variation of “secret santa”)
- invite friends and family for a lavish feast or attend one. Every one can bring their own dish to the party.
- make Eid goodie bags for all the kids
- bake an ‘Eid Mubarak’ cake or order one from your local bakery
- send out cards
- make an effort to put disputes behind you and try to mend relations with kin.
- find out about local events and join in with any local Eid parties organised by your local masjid or community (in the masjid, community centre or local park). Get to know your Muslim neighbours.
It’s my daughter’s second Eid, and my wife and I will try to build on our efforts during Eid-ul-Fitr. This time we’ll also be hosting the family dinner! So lots to do and prepare and look forward to, inshaAllah!
Some links to Eid shopping and resources below:
- Muslim Stickers – Balloons, stickers and badges
- Nasheed shop (check out Zain Bhikha’s latest 1415 album and Asif Choudhury’s You Are Not Alone)
- Great gift ideas – I want one of those
- Islamic Impressions (London and Birmingham) – toys and games
- Preparing for Eid prayer
- The Etiquette of a Muslim on two Eids (book)
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THE BIG DEBATE VIDEO – GOD: DELUSION OR TRUTH?
The big debate is now available on YouTube, click the link below. This debate is a must watch for all those interested in religion, philosophy and more! There is an extensive question and answer session (with lots of humour!) including post debate thoughts at the end!
Hamza Andreas Tzortzis ((iERA) vs. Rick Lewis (Editor of the Philosophy Now Magazine)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63Hr1_LB3Io
See more about Hamza’s events, articles and thoughts in his popular blog http://hamzatzortzis.blogspot.com
And dont forget the next debate “CAN WE LIVE BETTER LIVES WITHOUT RELIGION?” with Philosophy Lecturer and best selling author Peter Cave. 1st December 2009, click here to find out more http://www.hamzatzortzis.com
Link to Muslim Hands
Notes:
- You can use any other Muslim charities to pay money for the udhiya (check google or my charities page for more info).
- If you have many Qurbanis to perform, try to give udhiya in more than one country, perhaps one in your home country (where you may have family and relatives) and even one here in UK
- Don’t cut/trim your hair/nails during the first 10 days leading up to the Qurbani
As-salaamu alaikum. Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
Alhamdulillah, I have exchanged contracts on the sale of the house yesterday and will be moving to Ilford on Monday 19th October! inshaAllah
After 3 weeks of what seems like never-ending packing, we’ll have a couple of weeks of un-packing to look forward to!
So put your trust (tawwakkul) in the one that is Ever-Living, the One who does not die (al-Furqaan, 58)
And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust (tawakkul) in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things (at-Talaaq, 3)
From Abu Hamza:
As-salaamu alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: He who does not thank the people does not thank Allah. (Abu Dawud Book 36, Number 4793).
Al-Noor Muslim Primary would like to take this wonderful opportunity of expressing our sincere gratitude to each and every one of you that contributed to our appeal launched last May to purchase the pub right next door to our present Primary School in Goodmayes for £650,000.
It is with enormous pleasure that we can tell you that over 80% of the monies raised, came locally, from ordinary everyday working Muslims like you and me, confirming without a shadow of a doubt the huge demand and need for a Muslim Secondary School in Redbridge. Projects like Al-noor can only thrive with the Help of Allah (swt) and the amazing Muslim community.
This is a very special moment in the short history of Al-Noor, but one that is a huge landmark, this gives everyone working behind the scenes an enormous amount of confidence to know you the local community are well and truly behind us. It is no mean task to raise £650,000 in such a short demanding period of time, especially in the present financial climate.
Even as we hit the deadline on the very last day we had some amazing calls of support from atleast 8 Brothers and Sisters who said they would make up any shortfall to reach the £650,000. Truly that is inspiring.
May Allah (swt) reward you all in abundance both in this world and the hereafter. Aameen.
Allah swt mentions in the Holy Quran:
Those who spend their wealth by night and day, in secret, and in public, shall have their reward with their Lord. On them shall be no fear nor shall they grieve.” [Sooratul-Baqarah (2):274]
We hope you will stay in touch with our www.650special.co.uk campaign and follow its progress & also Insha Allah encourage others within your circle of family and friends to join the campaign to and get onboard the Al-Noor 650 special. At this moment in time we have only purchased the land, now begins the hard work of putting the dream into reality. We hope you will all continue to support us both financially and politically by helping us to get the planning applications approved.
For now let’s all celebrate this wonderful achievement by thanking Allah swt, and then pause for reflection and begin the hard work ahead of all of us.
Once more Jazak Allahu Khairun
Wassallaamulaiakum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
Sadiq Kothia
Trustee Al-noor Muslim Primary school
Date: Wed, Sep 23 2009 9:55 am
Assallumulaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
By the Grace and Mercy of Allah swt during the month of May this year Al Noor Muslim Primary school were blessed with the wonderful opportunity of purchasing the White Hart Pub right next door to the present school site. Insha Allah with a view to realising our dream of establishing a Secondary School.
The target we had to reach by the end of September was a challenging £650,000. In order to meet this challenge we launched a special campaign called the “650special” and a website and marketing campaign on Islam Channel and other avenues.
You the Muslim community have been amazing in your support and your du’as, not to mention your words of encouragement to us.
As of this morning we have reached the grand figure of £599,225 leaving us a tantalizing £50,775 short with just under a week to go.
My dear Brother and Sisters we are so nearly there, please visit www.650special.co.uk and make your final contribution, however small or big, but know for sure that your bit will make a difference. You can also drop the money of to the school or any other means you feel comfortable with, but please DO IT!!!
Insha Allah with your help this time next week we may just make a wonderful announcement, and you will know you had a “hisa” in that wonderful news.
GO DO YOUR BIT!!! CLICK AND GIVE for the pleasure of Allah swt.
Please pass this email on to all your contacts.
Wassallaamu alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu
Sadiq Kothia
Trustee Al Noor Muslim Primary School
